Sometimes I find it difficult to understand how people walk through this world without love. When I say love, I mean just having love for your common man, your peers, etc. Nowadays we have become so accustom to caring only about self that we forget that we are not islands but we are a part of the tapestry of Gods creation. When did we become so self-centered? Why are we so judgmental? Why do we allow social media to dictate or affect our emotions? Why do we allow ourselves to be pawns in this world instead of the fingers making the checkmate? Maybe its because people have lacked the experience of being alone, being lonely or in a dark place where people do not call or come by. So what do people do, they judge or criticize in lieu of love.
There was a time in my life when I was not the most trusting person but I thank God for bringing people across my path that were so loving that I had no choice but to love them back. There was no judgment or any playback of my past mistakes just pure love. That taught me something and I learned to be there for people even when there are no words to say. I learned to show my face in times of need because it brought comfort. I learned to hold a friends hand in the face of tragedy because it gave them strength to stand.
Sadly, more and more I notice how people have distanced themselves from this type of love. In lieu of love we avoid tragedies and uncomfortable situations. In lieu of love we hide and convince ourselves that we are giving time and space, when what is needed is love. In lieu of love we shut people out because we are afraid to be gracious. In lieu of love we push people away because we don’t know how to give a hug. In lieu of love we mark ourselves absent from difficult situations because we don’t know the words to console. In lieu of love we die a little bit inside because we are not open for the business of receiving the gift of love that others bring.
Going through my health battle I had to quickly decide how I was going to go through it, with love or with bitterness. Now we all know that life is not fair but we choose how we react to the situations that are presented to us. I experienced everything from people questioning my faith, to challenging my decisions and criticizing the way my body changed. Now I know that many of these remarks were made in ignorance because you would have to know that I had graves disease, hypothyroidism and growing fibroid tumors to understand the changes that I was experiencing. But in lieu of love people turned to criticism and it hurt. Yet I made it through that four-year battle by giving the love that I was not receiving.
My experience taught me to love those that don’t know how to receive or give it correctly. I truly learned that hurt people hurt people and that ignorance is not always bliss sometimes its just plain ‘ol mean. Yet I realized that the only thing that truly matters in Gods vast creation is how I treat and react to the way others treat me. So when I am met with hate, I return it with love. When I am met with ignorance I return it with love. When people attempt to knowingly or unknowingly tear me down I know its because in lieu of love they received hate, ignorance, hurt and so forth.
I encourage you to share love and in lieu of any other reaction give it.
***It is rare that in the world of social media that you see people spreading kindness, goodness, encouragement and love. This post is dedicated to Lilakoi Moon and Dawn Robinson***